Setting Relationship Boundaries

Healthy relationships—whether with friends, dating partners, or even family—are built on respect. One of the best ways to protect your well-being is by setting clear boundaries. Boundaries aren’t about shutting people out; they’re about helping both you and the people in your life know what feels safe, comfortable, and respectful.

What Are Boundaries?

Boundaries are limits you set for yourself and others about what’s okay and what’s not okay. They can be:

  • Physical (personal space, hugs, holding hands, etc.)

  • Emotional (how much you share, how you expect to be spoken to)

  • Digital (who can see your posts, how quickly you respond to texts, what you’re comfortable sharing online)

Why Do Boundaries Matter?

  • They keep you safe.

  • They help you maintain self-respect.

  • They make relationships healthier because both people know what’s okay.

  • They reduce stress and confusion.

Tips for Setting Boundaries

  1. Know your values. Think about what’s important to you and what makes you uncomfortable.

  2. Be clear. Use “I” statements, like “I’m not comfortable sharing my password” or “I need space when I’m upset.”

  3. Stay consistent. Boundaries only work if you stick to them.

  4. Respect others’ boundaries. Just like you have limits, so do the people around you.

  5. Speak up if they’re crossed. It’s okay to say, “That’s not okay with me,” even if it feels awkward.

What If Someone Doesn’t Respect Your Boundaries?

That’s a red flag. A healthy friend or partner will listen and respect your limits. If someone ignores your boundaries, pressures you, or makes you feel guilty, that’s a sign the relationship may not be safe or healthy. Reach out to a trusted adult or resource if you need help.

Resources for Teens

  • Love is Respect – loveisrespect.org | 24/7 chat, text, or call support on healthy relationships.

  • RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network) – rainn.org | 24/7 support for anyone facing sexual harassment or assault.

  • StopBullying.gov – stopbullying.gov | Information and help for bullying and online harassment.

  • National Runaway Safeline – 1800runaway.org | Support for teens who feel unsafe at home or need help.

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