Sexual Assault: Information for Teens

As a teen, you make important decisions about what—if any—sexual activity feels right for you. Agreeing to sexual activity (giving consent) means you have freely chosen to participate. If you feel pressured emotionally or physically, if you go along because you don’t feel you have a choice, or if you don’t know how to get out of the situation (coercion), you are not giving consent.

Any sexual contact that you do not consent to is sexual assault. You always have the right to say “no” to something sexual, no matter the situation or your relationship with the other person.

WHAT IS SEXUAL ASSAULT?

Sexual assault is any sexual contact that you do not freely agree to. This can include:

  • Forcing or pressuring someone into sexual activity.

  • Touching private body parts (such as breasts, genitals, or buttocks) without permission.

  • Sexual activity while a person is unable to consent (due to drugs, alcohol, or unconsciousness).

Sexual assault does not always involve intercourse. It includes any unwanted or forced sexual contact.

WHAT IS CONSENT?

Consent means clearly and freely agreeing to sexual activity.

  • Consent should be communicated clearly. A verbal “yes” is the best way to be sure.

  • Consent cannot be given if someone is underage, asleep, intoxicated, drugged, or unconscious.

  • Consent cannot be forced or pressured. If intimidation, threats, or manipulation are involved, it is not true consent.

  • Consent can be withdrawn at any time, even if you’ve said “yes” before.

You do not need to give a reason for saying “no.” Your boundaries matter.

Coercion

If you feel pressured to do something sexual—even if you’re afraid of upsetting your partner or losing a relationship—that’s coercion. Coercion is not consent.

Teen Dating Violence and Sexual Assault

Sexual assault can happen within dating relationships. Teen dating violence can be:

  • Sexual – being pressured or forced into sexual activity.

  • Physical – being hit, shoved, or hurt physically.

  • Emotional – being threatened, controlled, or manipulated.

  • Digital – being harassed, pressured, or threatened online or through text.

Remember: being in a relationship does not give someone the right to pressure, control, or hurt you.

Why Do Sexual Assault and Dating Violence Happen?

The main cause is misuse of power and control. Perpetrators may use:

  • Physical force

  • Threats or intimidation

  • Manipulation

  • Stalking or isolating you from friends and support

How Common Is Teen Sexual Assault?

Sadly, sexual assault among teens is common. Research shows:

  • 1 in 4 teen girls report being pressured into sex.

  • 1 in 10 high school girls and 1 in 20 high school boys have been forced into sex.

  • Over one-third of acquaintance rape victims are between ages 14 and 17.

  • 1 in 3 teens report abuse (sexual, physical, or emotional) by a dating partner each year.

  • Nearly 1 in 10 teens are physically hurt on purpose by a boyfriend or girlfriend.

Drugs, Alcohol, and Sexual Assault

Substances are often used to commit sexual assault.

  • Alcohol is the most common.

  • Drugs can be slipped into drinks, making someone unable to consent.

  • Warning signs of drugging include dizziness, blackouts, confusion, or sudden sleepiness.

Always keep your drink in sight and avoid accepting drinks from strangers or open containers like punch bowls.

Online Risks and Sexual Assault

Technology can be used in harmful ways, including:

  • Online predators tricking teens into unsafe meetings.

  • Posting or sharing private photos or videos without permission.

  • Using constant texting or social media monitoring to control or manipulate a partner.

Tips for Staying Safe

  • Expect respect. If someone doesn’t treat you respectfully, distance yourself.

  • Set and communicate clear boundaries.

  • Trust your instincts—if something feels wrong, it probably is.

  • Avoid excessive drinking or drugs that impair judgment.

  • Have a back-up plan when going to parties or unfamiliar places.

What Should I Do If I’m Sexually Assaulted?

  1. Call 911. Sexual assault is a crime. Law enforcement is focused on your safety.

  2. Go to the hospital. Don’t shower, change clothes, eat, or brush your teeth—these actions can destroy evidence. A medical exam will check for injuries and collect evidence.

  3. Talk to someone you trust. This may be a parent, adult family member, friend, or counselor.

  4. Seek counseling. Emotional recovery is as important as physical healing. A counselor can help you process feelings and move forward.

Common Feelings After Assault

It is normal to feel guilt, shame, anger, or confusion. You may even blame yourself. Remember: it is never your fault. Most assaults are committed by someone the victim knows. Healing takes time, but with support, you can recover.

Where Can I Go for More Help?

For immediate help, call the National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-HOPE.

Rebecca White