Teen Dating Violence Warning Signs

Romantic relationships between teenagers can be complicated. While healthy relationships are built on respect, trust, and communication, many teens lack the maturity and experience to navigate conflict in positive ways. As a result, some relationships may become unhealthy, controlling, or even abusive.

If you are in a relationship, it’s important to recognize the warning signs of abuse so you can protect yourself and get help if needed.

Red Flags in Teenage Relationships

Unhealthy or abusive relationships can take many forms. While no single behavior defines an abusive relationship, the following red flags should cause concern if they happen repeatedly:

  • Excessive jealousy or insecurity

  • Invading your privacy (checking your phone or social media without permission)

  • Unexpected anger or rage

  • Unusual mood swings

  • Pressuring you into unwanted sexual activity

  • Blaming you for problems and refusing responsibility

  • Controlling your choices or decisions

  • Explosive temper

  • Preventing you from seeing friends or family

  • Constantly monitoring your whereabouts

  • Making false accusations

  • Damaging or destroying your property

  • Taunting, bullying, or put-downs

  • Threatening or using physical violence

If your partner frequently engages in these behaviors, it may be a sign that the relationship is unhealthy or abusive.

What the Statistics Show

Teen dating violence is more common than many realize:

  • Nearly 1 in 11 female high school students and 1 in 14 male high school students report experiencing physical dating violence each year (CDC, 2023).

  • About 1 in 12 high school students experience sexual dating violence annually.

  • Teens who experience dating violence are more likely to struggle with depression, anxiety, substance use, poor academic performance, and future unhealthy relationships.

  • Digital abuse is on the rise—1 in 4 teens report being digitally abused or harassed by a dating partner (Urban Institute, 2022).

Abuse often escalates over time, so recognizing the warning signs early is critical.

If You Think You Are in an Abusive Relationship

If your partner exhibits controlling, threatening, or violent behavior—or if they have physically harmed you—trust your instincts. You are not overreacting, and you are not alone.

Here are steps you can take:

  • Reach out to a trusted friend, teacher, parent, or mentor.

  • Spend time with supportive people who encourage your well-being.

  • Get involved in positive activities that help you build confidence and new friendships.

  • Talk to a school counselor or therapist for guidance and support.

  • Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-SAFE (7233) for free, confidential help available 24/7.

Remember

Teen dating violence is serious. Abusive behaviors often escalate, leading to greater harm over time. If you believe you may be in an abusive or unhealthy relationship, don’t wait—reach out for help today.

Statistics accurate as of September 30, 2025, using the most recent data available at that time.

Rebecca White