Teen Dating Violence

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month, a time to shine a light on abuse and build safer futures. While many think of domestic violence as an adult issue, it often starts much earlier. In fact, teen dating violence is more common than many parents realize—and awareness is the first step to prevention.

What is Teen Dating Violence?

Teen dating violence includes any form of abuse within a dating relationship among teenagers. This can look like:

  • Emotional abuse: constant criticism, manipulation, or controlling behavior.

  • Physical abuse: hitting, shoving, or any unwanted physical harm.

  • Sexual abuse: unwanted sexual activity, pressure, or coercion.

  • Digital abuse: controlling, harassing, or monitoring through texts, social media, or apps.

These behaviors are about power and control, not love.

Warning Signs Parents Should Watch For

Your teen may not always come forward if they are in an unhealthy relationship. Be alert for:

  • Sudden withdrawal from family or friends

  • Increased anxiety, sadness, or anger

  • Changes in grades, attendance, or interest in school

  • Frequent communication demands from a partner

  • Unexplained bruises or injuries

  • A partner who shows jealousy, possessiveness, or demands constant “check-ins”

How Parents Can Help

  1. Start Open Conversations
    Ask your teen what they think a healthy relationship looks like. Be calm and nonjudgmental—this helps them feel safe to share.

  2. Model Respect in Relationships
    Show your teen what kindness, compromise, and healthy boundaries look like in your own relationships.

  3. Set Digital Boundaries Together
    Discuss safe online behavior and the red flags of digital control (excessive texting, password demands, location tracking).

  4. Teach Consent and Boundaries
    Reinforce that your teen has the right to say “no” and deserves a partner who respects them.

  5. Know When to Step In
    If you believe your teen is being harmed, reach out to the school counselor or a local support organization. Safety comes first.

Resources for Parents and Teens

Final Thought

Teen dating violence is preventable—but only if we address it early. By talking openly, modeling respect, and staying alert, parents can help their teens recognize the difference between love and control. This Domestic Violence Awareness Month, let’s commit to raising teens who know their worth and build safe, healthy relationships.

Rebecca White