I was afraid of the attachment.
I had to come to a place of realizing that we may be the only love that some children ever knew.
When I first met my child....
My heart broke and I was overjoyed at the same time. They had came from some pretty severe circumstances where they were grossly neglected. God blessed me tremendously with 4 amazing children. I thought they needed me, but I know now, I needed them. They completed our family.
It took several months for them the oldest to realize that we were going to love her and she was safe. The middle child ate like she would never have another meal. It took a few months to gain their trust. Although they were attention starved, we were immediately mommy and daddy to them. They had never known stability. They never knew where they would wake up.
We felt like family when they let their guards down and saw we loved them.
There will be daily struggles. You will question if you can do it. You will want to give up. You'll think they don’t like you. You'll be sure they don’t love you. Once they see your persistence, they will open up their hearts too. Just never give up. Everyone before you did.